It was wonderful to see many smiling faces leaving the get-together we had last February 21 (Saturday). We had talked about an issue very close to everyone's heart: love. And it was nice to have come out from that talk reassured about the importance of holding on to the good principles that we have learned, learning from the mistakes of the others and coming out stronger and more resolved to be mature women with our heads over our hearts.
Our speaker, Gloria Ma, started the talk by asking the participants how they spent the past Valentine's Day. The participants shared their experiences, not only on how they spent Valentine's Day, but also how they manage dating with school work. One girl commented how she and her boyfriend try to encourage one another to study harder, often competing with one another who will get the better grades. After this warming up moment, the talk on Love and Relationships commenced. The following is a summary of the contents of the talk:
True love and chastity 真愛與貞潔
Real love between a man and a woman should be expressed through endless genuine care, mutual respect and concern for the other's well being over and above one's own selfishness. Often, we think that love is the quantity or quality of material or sense satisfaction that the other person is able to give us. The person loves me more if he gives me more things or makes me always feel good. Unknowingly, we are thinking more of ourselves ("what can I get from the other person?") more than thinking of the other person ("what can I give to the other person?").
There are many manifestations of love, according to the type of relationship (family, friends, etc.), the proximity or closeness (acquaintance, close friends, boyfriends, husband). With all those we truly love, the requirement that real love demands of giving oneself selflessly always holds. Yet, the way we show our love matters a lot. There is the suitable way for every occasion and circumstance. In the relationship between girlfriend and boyfriend, there should be mutual respect. Saving the gift of sex until marriage brings freedom, joy and true romance without regret. Quoting a illustration from a renowned author on chastity, the speaker told us how illogical it would be to use one's wedding gown (all white and clean) to mop up spilled coffee. This is how it is when we don't preserve our chastity for marriage. True love teaches us to wait and true love is made strong by patience, sacrifice and self control.
There are many manifestations of love, according to the type of relationship (family, friends, etc.), the proximity or closeness (acquaintance, close friends, boyfriends, husband). With all those we truly love, the requirement that real love demands of giving oneself selflessly always holds. Yet, the way we show our love matters a lot. There is the suitable way for every occasion and circumstance. In the relationship between girlfriend and boyfriend, there should be mutual respect. Saving the gift of sex until marriage brings freedom, joy and true romance without regret. Quoting a illustration from a renowned author on chastity, the speaker told us how illogical it would be to use one's wedding gown (all white and clean) to mop up spilled coffee. This is how it is when we don't preserve our chastity for marriage. True love teaches us to wait and true love is made strong by patience, sacrifice and self control.
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